We are pretty good at celebrating others’ achievements, birthdays etc, but when it comes to celebrating the person we know so well, and are with all day everyday, we slowly take them for granted. We even start to believe that maybe that person isn’t as special as we thought they should be.
Who? Yourself, dummy!
My kids do it all the time - “Look at me!” “See me do this!” “I did that at school today!”
And as they get older it stops or slows down… Their self confidence gets knocked or they are worried about other people’s judgments of them. They become self conscious and begin to judge themselves.
Obviously we can’t constantly be going “Look at me”, and if we did it may be a sign that we feel lack somewhere. But we should celebrate ourselves just for us!
Why? According to research, the more good stuff we acknowledge, the more we notice in our lives. When we acknowledge ourselves, our behaviour changes and others notice us too (in a good way).
When I do so, I experience an abundance of joy and fulfillment, which inspires me to do and achieve more. In the words of Oprah Winfrey, “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” You deserve to have your accomplishments and unique personality be recognized.
Who is going to do that if you don’t?
One way of doing this is to write it down. It makes it more concrete, more tangible and you can even re-read it! List your good qualities, list your achievements, list the experiences you had that you learnt from. Add to it when you think of another thing! If you don’t like writing it, you can always use the voice-memo thing on your phone… Speaking it out is better than just thinking.
I would love this to be a two-way conversation! Let me know your thoughts and fears on self-celebration, and what are you celebrating about you today?
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